Hero Mother: Her Story

In 2003 my abuser forged my signature and had it notarized on a court stipulation giving him "50/50" custody and all back child support dropped, this is a paternity case. The notary was his real estate/insurance agent. The only reason I found out about the forgery is that he tried to remove our daughter, Michaela from daycare and they contacted me immediately.

I filed a police report regarding the forgery, the DA, Jay Conley, he said that "even though we know who the likely suspect is there was no proof that my abuser, Craig Hensberger, did this". Even though no one else would benefit from such an arrangement but the "likely suspect". I got a handwriting analysis done on my own and presented that evidence to the DA, he stated that only "proved it was not my signature", he refused to do anything. 

I went to court in front of Family Court Commissioner, Frank Calvert, of Oconto County, who just happened to be the GAL on my divorce/custody proceedings in 1997 who recommended custody to my ex abusive husband, John Fetterly. It was also Mr. Calvert who made sure that in his recommendations that in order for me to have primary placement with my older three daughters I was to have a "stable living environment away from Craig Hensberger". In 2003 Mr. Calvert moved up in ranks from lowly GAL to Family Court Commissioner and even with me expressing to him my concerns of his ability to be impartial I was ignored, chastised and intimidated by him. He refused to hear or see any evidence regarding the forgery and kept it as is, "50/50" custody and ordered child support in the amount of $25 per week based on 50/50 custody even though the father had placement every other weekend. 

The weekend of Fathers Day in June 2005 my daughter was in the custody and care of her father. On Saturday of that weekend he was arrested for his second DUI in less than a year with our daughter as a passenger in the middle of the day. At this time I had decided to move out of the state and per the county rules sent a certified letter to my former abuser to notify him of our move. He refused the certified letter and it was returned to me, although he was alerted that I was planning on moving and then filed an objection to my move. We again went in front of Frank Calvert who appointed GAL, Aaron Krzewinski. They ordered that my child stay in her current school but that Craig's mother was to do all the transportation and supervision of placement. This was when my former abuser anger began to escalate and he vandalized three vehicles of mine which rendered them useless as well as loosening all the lug nuts on my tires which could of killed me as the tire fell off while traveling to work one morning. 

Finally in October 2005, I moved in with my mother who lived well within the 150 mile radius I was allowed to move without notifying him. In December he served 20 days in jail for his DUI w/our daughter (the minimum is 30 days) and he also was allowed out on "Huber" so that he only had to report to jail at night when he was done working or not working. After he did his time he filed a motion to enforce placement when he was in jail for most of December. Again FCC Frank Calvert chastised me in court for not have legal representation and stated that if he could make me move back he would. He then gave my former abuser every weekend custody and ordered that I drive roundtrip every weekend because my abusers license was suspended. He stated that it wasn't "his fault I moved, it was mine". He also refused to review child support and the $25 weekly was upheld. 

In August 2006 I moved back to Oconto County with my then fiancé' soon to be husband, Chad Tipton. It was the Labor Day weekend and we were set to drive her for visitation with her father. My daughter stated that she was scared to go because her father was putting his finger in her "butt crack" down her pants, she made a motion of up and down. She made this revelation and stated how uncomfortable it was to her. I immediately contacted Marathon County CPS who interviewed my daughter. They did make a TPR and advised that Oconto would then handle it when we moved there after that weekend. 

During the first weeks of September 2006 my daughter was met at her school by Oconto County CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel. After not hearing from Ms. Silbernagel I contacted her and she was very volatile towards me. Stating that she didn't believe my daughter, that she believed she was "coached" and that she had children younger than my daughter who could provide specific details such as smells, times of days, etc. but my daughter did not. She stated that she knew of my "history with CPS" and reporting false allegations of sexual abuse. I asked her to explain as I had never made any other report to CPS regarding sexual abuse. She referred to another CPS worker that I had allegedly spoke to in 2004 regarding my older daughter. She made comments that she "knew ALL about me" etc. When I pointed out that my daughter is in danger as her fathers history of driving drunk. She then stated that "driving drunk with his child didn't make him a bad father, he made a bad choice".  She refused to take any action and the matter was closed. 

In May 2007 my former abuser decided to file for sole custody of our daughter as his behavior was to the point of madness since I was getting married on July 7, 2007. It was during this time that FCC Frank Calvert recused himself finally after I had filed a complaint against him with the Wisconsin Judicial Commission regarding his impartiality and biasness.  By this time he was already facing charges of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon as he tried to run my then fiancé' and 13 yo daughter in a grocery store parking lot one night as he waited outside for us. During that summer he was given every other week custody and they kept it that way until school started. Every bad behavior he gained more and more custody as the GAL was continually getting more money. 

By January 2008, last minute he agreed to joint custody and dropped his sole custody claim. In February 2008 my daughter came home and said that her grandmother had forced fed her soup and then her vomit while threatening to beat "her ass" with a wooden spoon if she didn't eat it. I contacted CPS and was told that the same CPS worker Carrie Silbernagel whose last name was now Burke as she married would contact me. After I told her of the force feeding incident she stated that she wanted to get down to the bottom of this "once and for all". She suggested to take my daughter to a neutral third party who would interview her, I agreed. Although she only needed one parents permission she made the appointment at the Child Advocacy Center when it was the fathers placement time to avoid any of my 'coaching' etc. 

On February 25 my daughter was picked up by Carrie Silbernagel Burke and had my child interviewed by Sara Schumacher who was a forensic interviewer for child abuse victims. The interview was recorded and transcribed. During the interview not only did my daughter tell of the soup incident but once again how her father sexually abused her. She told both Sara Schumacher and Carrie Silbernagel Burke that he father had instructed her to lie that day to them. By that afternoon I received a call from Carrie telling me that they were substantiating the abuse and placing my daughter with me. I thought that the nightmare was finally over. The CPS worker advised my husband and I that it would be a good idea if we left town for the night, get a hotel room as when she contact Craig he was extremely upset. She also advised that we should immediately file a child abuse restraining order for the TPR would not help protect my daughter very long. She explained that they would be filing a CHIPS (child in need of protection) petition and she would be in contact with us. 

The next day I filed child abuse restraining orders against Craig and Betty Hensberger and it was granted by Oconto County Richard Delforge for 30 day pending the CHIPS petition. By March CPS was already back pedaling and we were advised by Carrie Burke that Corporation Counsel, Robert Mraz, stated that I was already "protecting my daughter in Family Court" when in fact there was no such order but only the one in which she was to go every other week. Then CPS offered for both parties to sign a stipulation agreement for "co-parenting" classes for both parents. They never even ordered any alcohol or drug assessment for Craig whose history of alcohol abuse was severe. My attorney at the time, Michael Perry,  advised me not to agree to the stipulation and also my former abuser refused to sign. 

Also in March he was acquitted of his charge of endangering safety with a dangerous weapon. Somehow my former abuser contacted my ex husband and had my older daughters recant their statements. When this was brought forward to the DA, Jay Conley of possible witness tampering, he stated it wasn't because Craig only talked with my ex husband. 

On May 21, 2008, my daughters 10th birthday, an Administrative Appeal was held by recused FCC Frank M. Calvert. My lawyer and I were not privy to this hearing in which my former abuser, his attorney, Corporation Counsel, Deputy Director of Oconto County CPS Greg Benesh and Carrie Burke were a part of. The only reason my attorney learned of this hearing was due to my abusers attorney, John D'Angelo, sending a copy of the hearing in which Mr. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations. My attorney advised me to get the recording from the hearing and I did. What I heard was chilling as my character and credibility was more of an issue than the actual abuse. Especially in which Mr. Calvert snickers and makes fun of me that he's "well aware of the difficulties with Ms. Fetterly-Tipton". My lawyer instructs me to file a complaint with the judicial commission as Mr. Calvert had recused himself and he had no right to hear that case. When I requested the CD recording of the hearing Mr. Calvert's assistant Julie Depouw stated that perhaps Calvert "forgot" he recused himself. A complaint was filed with the judicial commission regarding the ongoing bias and unethical practices of Frank M. Calvert. 

In July 2008 my former abuser wanted his placement times back. We went to court and after my two witnesses testified, Sara Schumacher and Greg Benesh, Judge David Miron ordered a recess. My lawyer, my former abuser's lawyer, GAL Krzewinski met in chambers. My lawyer returned to say that the judge was not going to hear any more testimony because so far we had not proven that there was any substantial change in circumstances for change in placement. He also stated that due to her father subpoenaing my daughters counselor, Jennifer Werner, her supervisor wrote to the judge to tell of his disdain that she was being 'used' as a pawn in this proceeding and she had no knowledge of the ongoing custody dispute (her counseling records do not reflect that). My lawyer stated I had to agree to two supervised visits, one overnight unsupervised, one weekend unsupervised then back to week on week off, providing that GAL Krzewinski and newly appointed counselor, Mike Mervilde, found no reason for that schedule, and they didn't. 

When I had tried to make further appointments with Mike Mervilde I was thwarted by saying that he was only court ordered to see her twice. When I requested copies of her counseling records I was told that my daughter wasn't the patient, her father was. 

By the very first unsupervised visit my daughter came back stating her father was drinking and driving with her. Every other week she was coming home from his home with lice. CPS said that wasn't neglect. My daughter refused to go for visitation and in October her father filed his first of three contempt motions on me. I was found in contempt by Judge Miron and it was ordered that my daughter be forced to live with her abuser for five weeks straight, I was not allowed visitation. This was when I was first accused of PAS, a.k.a. 'brainwashing' her. The judge stated that he believed that I had "poisoned" my daughter against her father. When I shook my head slightly the judge yelled at me to not shake my head at him.
She left on 10/31/09 and returned on 12/05/09. During that time she was tormented and tortured by her father and grandmother. My daughter still says that was the worst time of her life. 

In February my daughter came home and said her father caught a 8lb Walleye and kept it alive in his 100 gallon fish tank for two weeks. He then proceeded to use her and sign her up for three different fishing derbies in one weekend with the same fish. He told my daughter if she told no one she would receive an ipod. The total of $150 of prize money that was won in my daughters name she never saw one penny or an ipod. 
Her father was caught in his lying, cheating and stealing but blamed her for "ratting him out". This was the turning point that my daughter lost any last respect for her father, she would ask me, "why would he do this to me?", I had no answer, I still don't. 

She missed a weekend visit in March, by Monday he went to her school with the police to pick her up. She refused and the Gillett police officer, Gary Pemmrich, threatened my daughter that he would take her down to juvenile hall, she would be placed in foster care, she would never see me again and that she would have to go to a new school. 
It was after this hat my former abuser brought me to court again for contempt, the judge did not find me in contempt and dismissed it. This was when Judge Miron made a threat that perhaps neither parent was fit and maybe he would put her in foster care. 
He then changed the order that each parent could pick up the child directly from school rather than the police station as the drop off. 

Shortly after she returned from her week placement stating how cold she was at her fathers, stating his electricity was "broken". The next week it was the same, finally CPS was alerted that there was no electricity, running water/plumbing, refrigeration for food etc. They then began staying at his mothers small two bedroom home, my daughter was given a choice of either sleeping on the living room floor or the unfinished basement. By August my daughter had been frightened several times by her grandmother driving her drunk, specifically one occasion where they took her out with them to the bar and as the grandmother stumbled out of the bar she proceeded to get into the wrong vehicle and then drove them home, drunk. 

My daughter asked to stay at my home on his weekend 8/7/09 due to her older sisters coming for a visit. She kept saying how relaxed she was, how well she slept in an actual bed in her own room. She called him and told him she would not return to his mothers house because she had no bed or bedroom there. By 8/12/09 he filed a motion of contempt on me but waited until last minute 9/18/09 to  have me served. Due to the untimely notice it was dismissed, He soon filed another contempt. At no time after school started did he ever go to school to retrieve his daughter. In court on 10/14/09 he and his mother perjured themselves that she has her own room, I'm brainwashing her, they don't drink. When asked why he didn't go pick her up he would say he was "working" or he was "busy" but I was being held accountable. On 9/4/09 we drove up to the grandmothers house for my daughter to retrieve her clarinet. We requested the assistance of Oconto County Sheriffs Deputy Ryan Zahn, who happens to be the nephew of Craig Hensberger, grandson of Betty Hensberger. At no time did the grandmother attempt to keep my daughter at her residence, her father according to his testimony was working. 

Judge Miron found me in contempt and ordered me 30 days in county jail, with it stayed and ordered that my daughter be picked up by her father on 10/16/09 after school. I was also found in contempt and ordered 30 days in county jail for claiming my daughter on my taxes even though he has an order to do so the IRS will not allow him to since he unlawfully claimed her from 1999-2007. Also because she lived with me exclusively from Feb 2008-August 2008 which the federal government agreed I could claim her. Judge Miron also made his threats again that maybe he would "contact CPS because neither one of us is a fit parent and maybe he should take he away from both of us". He stated that maybe foster care was the best place for her. 

Since the contempt motion being served on 9/18/09 my child has began sleep walking, having night terrors, and was placed on Xanax for her sleep disturbances and anxiety issues brought on by her father. She has stated she is not going with her father ever again, she can't and won't. She won't be in school tomorrow due to her flu and is adamant that nobody can make her go, not even me. 

Family Court Money Trail: Blood Money

"Affirms that the term "violence against women" means any act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual or psychological harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life, and including domestic violence, crimes committed in the name of honour, crimes committed in the name of passion, trafficking in women and girls, traditional practices harmful to women, including female genital mutilation, early and forced marriages, female infanticide, dowry-related violence and deaths, acid attacks and violence related to commercial sexual exploitation as well as economic exploitation" -Elimination of Violence Against Women

In the first article of the Family Court Money Trail, the greed of the courts culture was the focus. Currently, the amount of money that is reared in supports a court that enforces contact with violent parents. School started this year in Australia with a five year old girl that was thrown off the bridge after the father was granted shared parenting. A mother was killed after she was ordered by the court to return to UK with her child. Who could not forget pumpkin? The 3 year old found wandering around a train station after her mother was brutally murdered. Perhaps if the court had taken his previous violence serious, pumpkin might still have had a mother today. Think about it. How much did the judge earn to write of her mothers life so cheaply? How much money did the Darcey's lawyer earn to pressure her mother into signing the orders that led to her death? Meanwhile, the family courts, the lawyers and court reporters are raking it in. They call it, "income" - I call it, "Blood money".

Lets not forget the services surrounding the courts that file letters to go with affidavits, assist with parenting plans and "help strengthen families". They are the "Family Relationship Services", the "Parenting courses" and the "Dads programs". Despite one third of the female population, there are few family programs that have been funded to assist domestic violence victims. Support services in family programs now overrepresent men and women staying with them.

In the Community Investment Program, the programs targeted mostly young women and parenting:

However there was more funding and more programs available specifically for fathers. This includes the notorious "Dads In Distress" who promote the junk science, "Parent Alienation Syndrome". They further diminish the notion that it is mostly women experience violence and so already have the values and culture that is not responsible in services for violent men:

According to the Ausdv Clearinghouse there are concerns regarding the reduction of funds to domestic violence services that are crucial to women:

Lang (2002b) has acknowledged that working with men

can take resources away from women’s empowerment

and can detract from working with women. Most

advocates of preventive work with men emphasise that

this work should not take scarce resources away from

women. However, given limited funding, the reality is

that gender mainstreaming and targeting men has led

to women’s services being cut back (Charlesworth 2000;

Sawyer 2003; Bacchi 2004).

$100 million has been allocated to fund family relationship services. In the media

release it states:

"The funding will support a range of measures such as early intervention services including counselling, skills training, mediation, as well as post-separation services including family and couples’ counselling, specialized family violence services, dispute mediation and parenting support."

Below is a list of the Family Relationship service programs funded under the, "Community Intervention Program" that does not mention any funding for specialized family violence services:

In the media release announcing the program it states;

"The projects include a strong focus on supporting vulnerable children and families, and building cohesive and strong communities."

On one of the organizations site it funds contains a statement on its website asserting that women and children are the property of men:

Yet in article 2, the convention of the rights of the child states,

Article 2

1. States Parties shall respect and ensure the rights set forth in the present Convention to each child within their jurisdiction without discrimination of any kind, irrespective of the child's or his or her parent's or legal guardian's race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national, ethnic or social origin, property, disability, birth or other status.

2. States Parties shall take all appropriate measures to ensure that the child is protected against all forms of discrimination or punishment on the basis of the status, activities, expressed opinions, or beliefs of the child's parents, legal guardians, or family members.

A much more elaborate system in United states stemmed from a similar system we have here today, where mens programs began to dominate with a drive to ensure that children became the property of fathers in custody outcomes and that all such challenges concluded in their favor.

Australia is not so far behind America in the child custody regard, however the potential for programs and services to be used to privilege men in favor of custody regardless of their behavior is high. Considering that there is already some evidence of this occurring especially in cases where there has been child abuse and or domestic violence. Reports that services masquerading under the guise of mens behavior change led by mens rights advocate are prevalent.

According to the National Alliance For Family Court Justice funding of community programs were misused,

"The National Alliance for Family Court Justice, has lobbied against deadbeat and abusive fathers for many years and for reasons including their fraudulent use of federal Department of Health and Human Services fatherhood programs for funding their custody litigation."

Convicted Sex Offender Granted Custody of Four Children

For some time, politicians have been avoiding the topic of how far they will go in handing the children over to the father. The situation here speaks for itself. Whilst the article does not draw attention to previous cases like this, it is not uncommon for courts to allow convicted sex offenders unsupervised contact with children. For as long as the courts, family reporters and children's lawyers rely upon the junk science of Parental Alienation Syndrome(also referred to as "Parent Alienation"), cases like these will continue to rupture the lives of children.

Pedophile granted child custody

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DAVID NANKERVIS

June 13, 2009 11:30pm

A FAMILY Court judge has granted custody of four children to their father - a convicted pedophile and rapist.

The mother of the four youngsters, all aged under 15, requested custody at a recent Family Court hearing in Adelaide.

The unsuccessful application was made not long after the children's father was found guilty in the Adelaide District Court of multiple sex offences against a minor.

A transcript of the Family Court hearing shows the presiding judge was aware of the father's convictions and that he was on bail awaiting sentencing.

Further details, including the names of the family, cannot be legally reported. The mother and her current husband also both have criminal records.

However, child support groups have condemned the idea that a convicted pedophile could be granted custody of any child.

Victim Support Service SA said the community would be "alarmed" at a situation where a pedophile was allowed to care for children.

"Our organisation would be worried too about that, and we would want to know about the reasoning and rationale behind such a decision and what steps are in place to protect any child in such circumstances," the service's chief executive Michael Dawson said.

"I would think it is inappropriate for someone with a previous history - through conviction of crimes against children - to be provided with the opportunity to supervise children.

"From my personal experience, I've never heard of any such case before."

The Australian Childhood Foundation also expressed serious concern about the risks pedophiles pose to children, particularly in an unsupervised environment.

"Convicted pedophiles can't work as a teacher, be a foster carer or footy coach, because society recognises that past behaviour is the best indicator of future risk," foundation chief executive Joe Tucci said.

"So as a matter of principal, children shouldn't be in unsupervised contact or custody of an adult with convictions for sexual assault against children."

Mr Tucci said courts should err on the side of caution and treat convictions of sexual assault against children as a "red light" when deciding what is in a child's best interest.

A spokeswoman for the Family Court said judges could only award custody of a child to those parties who applied for it.

"If a judge has concerns about a child's welfare, they cannot make an order that a child be put in the care of the state," the spokeswoman said.

"A judge can ask but not compel a state welfare department to intervene if they believe a child is at risk of abuse or neglect."

The Department of Families and Communities said the Family Court may advise it of any "child protection concerns (the court has) about a child".

"Families SA assesses the notification like any other and takes action if necessary," a department spokesman said.

"Also, the Family Court may make a formal request that the Department of Families and Communities become a party to a case.

"If DFC accepts the request and becomes a party, it then makes representations to the court about what is in the best interests of the child or children."

Stop The Responsible Fatherhood Bill

"All I ever wanted was supervised" a repeated phrase amongst family violence survivors.  The Family Court has come under recent scrutiny over unsafe contact and the controversial use of Parental Alienation Syndrome a diagnosis that has not been accepted by any scientific organization globally.  The bottom line is that children are ordered by the court to attend access visits where the parents are abusive.  If the mother objects, she risks losing the children altogether.  That is the state of not only the Family Court in Australia, it is an international problem.  

Until recently, there were few groups that were advocating for children and far too many groups advocating for such forced contact.  "Pro Contact" culture is really just being polite.  "Contact No Matter what" Cult, is more appropriate considering the facts that there is no limit as to who they wish children to have contact with.  

Cult definitions coined from 1920 onward^[1] refer to a cohesive social group and their devotional beliefs or practices, which the surrounding population considers to be outside of mainstream cultures. The surrounding population may be as small as a neighborhood, or as large as the community of nations. They gratify curiosity about, take action against, or ignore a group, depending on its reputed similarity to cults previously reported by mass media. -Wikipedia

Bizarre punishments against mothers are initiated by the courts if they do not comply without consideration for the impact that the children suffer.  

Some of these punishments include:

"Isolating The Child From The Protective Parent"

"Orders inhibiting the Child From access to Counseling"

"Removal of The Mothers Passport'

In cases where the parent has a mental health condition that is one of the leading causes of homicide, the protective action is often minimal.  Some orders are for the parent to take their medication and see their doctor, but left entirely to the device of the patient and the potential victims are left restricted by the court order and helpless to what might come about.  The Court evaluators who make the decisions that the judges often solely rely on are often untrained for these cases, but overtrained in the area of "pro - contact' and too well understand the terms of "maternal gatekeeping" "Alienation" and "False Memory Syndrome".  They believe that the child is not unsafe in relationships with sex offenders if they "just accept it" without the interference from mothers.  

This is due to the fact that in the early 80s, Dr Richard Gardner coined the term, "Parent Alienation Syndrome" and travelled the world with the help of Association of Family and Conciliation Courts(AFCC).  Many conferences were held indoctrinating lawyers, psychologists and judges into the belief that children are better off with abusive parents.  This belief was also supported by the international Child Emancipation, a lobby group for pedophiles.  

Cases where there is not enough evidence to support Family Violence are often referred to as, "False Allegations" and in most cases the victim is required to pay costs to the alleged perpetrator. This goes against studies that support the notion that in 95% of child abuse cases are true.  Clearly it is the interference that the victims receive during the court processes that leads to the lack of evidence that is able to be provided.  

Like the German Lebensborn organization, they said, "Best Interests" but the intention was to reintroduce laws that tie women to men and diminish any concerns regarding child abuse and violence against women.  The current family law regime reduces the value of children and mothers compared to men and promotes the cycle of violence continuing through to another generation.  Like a genetic disease, our children have been infected with family violence.  

The German Lebensborn organization was similarly cruel in its time.  In the context of the German welfare system, it was considered that it was the "best interests" of the child to be German.  By abducting babies of other origins for German families, "Best Interests of the child" was created to serve the purposes of racial intolerance.  Today in the context of Family Law, "best interests of the child" refers to the amount of time spent with a parent no matter how abusive they may be. 

Although there have been more efforts to protect mothers and children affected by family violence with the Violence Against Women Act and the introduction of the Protective Parent Bill, PAS is still alive in the US court system and have progressed to a point where they are supporting it through the "Responsible Fatherhood Bill".  Like best Interests, it is aimed at enforcing contact with fathers regardless of the rise to epidemic proportions of murder suicides.  In sect 2, "Findings" it states that the reason to provide fathers with billions of dollars in funding is due to:

6) Children who live without contact with their biological father are, in comparison to children who have such contact--

(A) 5 times more likely to live in poverty;

(B) more likely to bring weapons and drugs into the classroom;

(C) twice as likely to commit crime;

(D) twice as likely to drop out of school;

(E) more likely to commit suicide;

(F) more than twice as likely to abuse alcohol or drugs; and

(G) more likely to become pregnant as teenagers.

(7) Violent criminals are overwhelmingly males who grew up without fathers.

  

The findings stated here is derived from a confirmitory bias. If you look deeper into the research, it becomes obvious that:

Children were economically abused by the fathers and the state for withdrawal of financial support of children.  It is in fact written in the convention on The Rights Of The Child:

 

Article 26

1. States Parties shall recognize for every child the right to benefit from social security, including social insurance, and shall take the necessary measures to achieve the full realization of this right in accordance with their national law.

2. The benefits should, where appropriate, be granted, taking into account the resources and the circumstances of the child and persons having responsibility for the maintenance of the child, as well as any other consideration relevant to an application for benefits made by or on behalf of the child.

 

The "Violent males who grew up without fathers", were in fact infected prior to the separation by witnessing the actual violence.  According to Amy Coha:

• Boys who witness domestic violence are more likely to batter their female partners as adults than boys raised in nonviolent homes. Of the children who witness domestic abuse, 60% of the boys eventually become batterers.
• Sixty-three percent of boys age 11-20 who commit homicide, murder the man who was abusing their mother. In 50% of the time, if the wife (mother) is being physically abused, so are the children.

Teenage pregnancy is an old sexist phrase that draws the need to look at the pregnant women as the problem.  Contraceptives apart from the condom are directed at her as entirely responsible for the pregnancy.  According to Rape Abuse and Incest Network(RAIN):

Girls ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.

 

Victims of sexual assault are:⁷

3 times more likely to suffer from depression.

6 times more likely to suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder.

13 times more likely to abuse alcohol.

26 times more likely to abuse drugs.

4 times more likely to contemplate suicide.

The fact that in some states, the perpetrator can apply to the Family Court to stop the abortion and continue these attacks on her suggests that women and girls are considered by the state as objects rather than human beings.  If such a bill were to pass, it would be a greater violation to the already eroded human rights of women and children.  

Natural Biological Parents

There are lobby groups who want to create laws and policies that enforce families to reform to the nineteenth century style where every family is made of natural biological parents.  The groups are:

Shared Parenting Council of Australia

Fathers4Equality 

Rationshed 

Dads4Kids: Fatherhood Foundation

Australia - Richard Hillman Foundation Inc.

Australian so called Child Support

Fathers 4 Justice

They say that they are safer with natural biological parents and we cannot go wrong with laws like the ones they suggest.  LIke many children born into a home rampant with family violence, these children are forgotten from the minds of these groups including the recent seven year old who was starved to death in the North of NSW.  They say that it is a child's rights to be care for by both parents.  Even if it kills them?  Is this a childs right?  Is it really in their best interests to die in the hands of their biological parents just because its traditional and against feminism?  The father in the article below, blamed his wife for the death of their seven year old.  Yet the domineering nature of this particular father suggests that he plays the stereotype of the head of the family and thus his decisions should warrant the same level of accountability.  Unlike the groups above, I neither sympathize nor support the mother involved in the trial at this stage unless some facts come to light that prove that she was not responsible for such an act.  This is an example of how children are not always safe with their natural biological parents and it is stupidity to think that by attracting laws based upon bias research would simply "make everything better".  It should also be noted that hitler also had similar ideologies and believed that the women's place was in the home.  

Father blamed wife for starved girl's death: court 

May 27, 2009

A man pointed to his wife and said "it was her, all her fault'' after being arrested over the starvation death of their daughter, a jury has been told.

The seven-year-old girl was found dead in the family's Hawks Nest home, north of Newcastle, on November 3, 2007.

Her parents, who cannot be identified for legal reasons, were arrested a fortnight later on the NSW south coast after warrants were issued for their capture.

Sergeant Michael Moulds, then a senior constable, told a NSW Supreme Court jury on Wednesday he arrested the couple at Albion Park railway station on November 17.

He said he had police printouts of the couple relating to their outstanding warrants and also recognised them from media coverage of the girl's death.

They were taken to Port Kembla police station, where Constable Paul Hewitson said the father blamed his wife for their predicament.

Crown prosecutor Peter Barnett SC asked him what was said.

'''It was her, all her fault'. And he pointed back to the dock area where the female accused was,'' Const Hewitson told the court.

He said a search of two bags found with the parents found items including three mobile phones, four Centrelink health cards, four Centrelink pensioner concession cards, 14 prescriptions in the names of the parents, a large quantity of prescription and non-prescription drugs, new clothes, toiletries and the couple's framed wedding certificate.

Earlier on Wednesday, a paediatrician who had treated the girl told the jury the state of the child's body after her death was so extreme she could not describe it.

Dr Dimitri Tzioumi treated the girl at Sydney Children's Hospital in Randwick in 2002 and said the girl had periods of significant growth during her early years, coinciding with visits to paediatricians.

If the girl had continued growing in line with the growth percentile scale she would have weighed 26 kilograms in November 2007, she said.

The court has previously heard the girl weighed only nine kilograms when she died.

Dr Tzioumi said she had seen a video of the girl taken at the morgue in Newcastle after her death.

"She was severely wasted, or emaciated,'' she said.

''(There was) no likeness of the child I knew.

"This was extreme, so extreme I can't describe it.''
 
The trial before Justice Robert Allan Hulme, sitting in East Maitland, continues.

Australia's Family Court Money Trail

If you have ever accessed the court as a survivor of violence or a protective parent, you'll know what I mean when I say that they lick their lips at the sight of money.  Getting the child to the abuser is like hitting the jackpot as they know this will lock in the family courts financial future.  Lets face it, dead beat dads are bad for them as they know that they will give up when they have had their rampage against the ex.  Protective parents will keep litigating until they have lost everything.

An urban legend is spreading through Australia about the Federal Magistrates court having wild parties, snorting cocaine amongst other cocktails of indulgence to eliminate the pain of compassion and humanity at is worst.   It is called the "Debauchery house" and as the legend goes,   a lawyer who saw what they were doing and wrote about it in a book.  Just before he published it, he was called in for a meeting with a warning that he would be disbarred if he were to proceed and even when he altered it to fiction he was .  It might explain the recent reports of judges not even bothering to read the evidence, presenting disheveled in attire and requesting its litigants to "speak in simple terms'.  If this "urban legend" is true, we ask you to come forth.  We want names, we want any footage that you have acquired and any other evidence you have.  It is about time a change of culture occurred in the court, whether or not this urban legend is true.  We have a way of releasing this information without being affected by Australian Law and its treaties.  

It is about time victims of violence and child abuse receive true justice.  its about time that the lies and propaganda that surrounds a deep lack of transparency is exposed.  True justice has no place for those who seek to be, "above the law".  So lets begin with the information that has already been revealed.  There is a 5 million dollar black hole in the Federal Magistrates budget.  $60,000 of that was spent on fine bone china.  According tot he australian , the 5 million dollar black hole was associated with 16 magistrates.

The minimum fees that are charged between the two courts appear significantly different by a couple of hundred dollars.  At the Family Court, it is $1905 which includes initial application, final order application and two hearings.  This does not include the costs to file affidavits and other forms not mentioned in the fees and charges section.  In the Federal Magistrates court it costs $1367 for the same set of fees.  An average lawyer will cost you $3000 per hearing plus expenses for the time spent advising you and preparing the forms.  In February 2009, submissions for the access to justice inquiry was closed and leading up to that date, there were mainly internal submissions  or input from liaising organizations.  Just before the deadline closed, Child concern Australia and a few other organizations supporting women  and children submitted their concerns on the access to justice and thoughts about the proposed changes. Prior to this, media releases were on plans to axe the Family Court and divert its traffic to the Federal Magistrates.  This would have been a negative outcome for children and women affected by family violence.  The reason why the federal magistrates are so cheap is that they are for short court cases where everything is rushed through and family violence is ignored as a result of its processes.  Its actually a batterers paradise , where there is no time for him to be investigated, no time to delve into the history and an enormous pressure place upon the mother to give in to what may come of it including her or her children's life. Just rush through, threaten severe consequences if she does not obey her ex husband and "cha ching" get as much money out of it as possible.  At the very beginning, they pretend that they are going to look into family violence, but really its about gathering as much information from you so that you will become silent.  Snatching evidence must be part of the training as the reports of this is widespread.  They don't tell you this to begin with as it will ruin the "surprise" and most importantly those initial filing costs.  You must file relatively early for a final order, so this is also part of it.  Getting as many people through the doors is how the money reaches maximum income.  The very reason why the SPCA is supporting the Federal Magistrates Court is that it will reduce the visibility of victims and support the notion of false allegations which is a common reference to "unsubstantiated".  With haste and a drive to put as many couples in and out of this court system as quickly as possible, victims are invisible and their perpetrators have less time to keep the "charm" going without being found out.  With this system it is virtually impossible to substantiate allegations.  Once the final orders are rushed through to the end, a litigant cannot apply for three years.  

Stay tuned for more on Australia's Family Court Money Trail

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