But these journeys that we take in life are ones that we must take alone. If "Family" was all what was set in text by religions, there would be no domestic violence at all. Sometimes domestic violence is used within the context of God as a reason to perpetrate it, sometimes it is allah. Again, it is where one interprets religion. Violence against women and children is a heavy burden of our times and apart of families. Many women have mistaken the belief that they could resolve it, perhaps if they had more humility or compassion. I cannot recall one occasion where a women had not made an effort to resolve the violence against them. Its not her that needs to resolve it and that is why it continues to go on. The person who is harming needs to stop and whether they choose to is something that no one can interfere with. The problem with forcing someone to do something is that it will always fall apart. Keeping her in the family under a new marriage contract is no different than being a human trafficker. The only difference is that one women travels and the other is under house arrest by the law. That is why human traffickers get caught and this law is falling apart. Noone was able to conceal Arthur Freeman when he threw Darcey Freeman off that Bridge. No one could hide the accumulating experiences of terror whether it be the mother distraught over the abuse of her children or the trauma of violence used against her during contact handovers.
No there is so much more to the picture than just, "Fatherlessness" and "scornful women". The truth begins to shine through and not until some time has passed that a judge might recognize it and sometimes it is just too late. It was too late for Darcey and others too. They say that single mothers are strained and stressed by the lack of assistance available, Thats not going to change with a man who is driven by hate for all women. Single mothers need the rest of the community regardless of what culture they are from to stop turning their backs on her and the children. perpetrators are also complex human beings. If they all walked around being as aggressive out of home than they were in the home, perhaps they never would have become fathers.
The shared parenting bill brought into Australia is one of the major fathers rights and church influences upon the law. A law that is imposed upon 45% of the population who are non believers and 93% of the christian population that do not regularly attend church. What if this was Sharia Law instead? In fact we are now not so far away from that considering that Shared Parenting ties women to men.
Senator Steve Fielding stated on the 30th of March in 2006,
"Family First believes it is important to discourage false reports of child abuse or family violence.
If a court determines, based on evidence presented to it, that an accusation of child abuse or family violence is false and the person making the accusation knew it to be false at the time it was made, the court may impose a reasonable financial penalty. That penalty should not exceed all costs incurred by the party accused as a direct result of defending the accusation, and reasonable lawyers’ fees incurred in recovering the sanctions, against the person making the accusation.
No one is at risk if their allegations are true or if they believed them to be true.
A malicious false report of child abuse or family violence would be grounds for a court to consider restricting the parent/child relationship between the child and false accuser.
Family First understands the Australian Institute of Family Studies is undertaking research into violence and family law and some people have argued this issue should not be addressed until that research is published. I do not want to discount the importance of that research, but there will always be research underway and there will always be an excuse not to act. The research can be taken into account in future amendments.
I ask Senators for their support for the amendment."
No such amendment was made for the person who denied the violence and the hell they put their victim(s) through during the process of pursuing false allegations. Leaving the court to decide whether it was false or not left the flood gates open to target every victim who did not manage to acquire enough evidence(Perhaps that might be because if they were to take any longer, the only exit would be in a body bag). The court already has the supreme power to decide what is enough and sometimes what was required to determine a murder case was not enough. The extreme torture that these children and mothers endure because of such bias is horrific. For quite some time before the shared parenting laws, it was difficult enough to bring forward a case of family violence and even then there was the ordered exposure to risk. Since the 1980s in Australia, when the concept of parent alienation was introduced the survivors were legally ordered back into the situations that they had intended to escape from. This entire experience is because the people who initiated these theories held a deep hatred towards all women and desired to have more rights over both her and the children. This is why domestic violence is still prevalent in the community and why there is one organization that can legally continue the cycle going throughout generations.
Addressing family violence requires more than just ideals. It requires full commitment to break the cycle altogether. Its not the women, her advocates that cause the problem of divorce. it is the attitudes that support the violence, the blame that is misdirected towards her and the children. The greeks were correct when they perceived evil was really ignorance and ignorance is what is producing some devastating consequences. It is the cheapness of mothers and children's lives that are discarded all for the sake of the nuclear family. Only a small percentage of allegations are proven to be false. The studies that refer to 5% cover a larger population and more history of family court proceedings including joint custody. This research was available prior to the shared parenting bill and such statistics were overlooked in favor of "saving Marriage" but failing to thoroughly deal with the deep rooted problems that cause divorce.
There was no domestic violence homicide review team in Australia at that stage and even now there is only one in NSW. The ability to use such statistics to proceed with caution on this bill were not available. Lives of women and children were discarded for the sake of "solving fatherlessness". What was available was years of peaking murder suicides that infested Untied States after similar legislations were introduced. They are now looking at changing these laws after a long hard costly lesson. We cannot bring back those lives. We cannot revive the children who hung themselves because it was too painful to endure another beating, we cannot take away the bullets that made thousands of children permanently motherless. What we can do now is truly understand what is happening to our children, their mothers and provide adequate protections for them.
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