Abusers Rights vs Victims

The above image is outrageous but unfortunately a truth.  Men who are not violent wouldn't be offended as there is so much of it going on that it effects everyone, their mothers, sisters and daughters.  Some would like to think that this does not occur, that we live in a peaceful society with happy families, picket fences and loving parents.  For some this has been a reality and I hope it continues to be that way.  Fathers who do not engage in violence nor condone this are the ones who need to be in the spotlight.  Unfortunately, this is not the case.  Occasionally, myself or a member of our team might stop by a family court article and make a comment from the Anonymums perspective.

The anger that written towards anyone challenging fathers rights, shared parenting and parent alienation syndrome gets to a point where it becomes abusive.  I have learned through my own course of surviving violence that there is no negotiations with a terrorist as it is true for some of these supporters.  Its a strong culture that supports violence and once you begin to unravel to the bare bone intention - it becomes clear what these movements about.  Its about having more laws that support violence, reduce protections and maintain silence over their victims.  Its about keeping everyone silent by force and by coercion so that he remains unaccountable, unremorseful and in control.  The abuser is right and everyone is wrong, anyone who challenges this is "evil" and must be stopped.  That is the attitude and every negative step any women has taken is shined to blind their audiences from their own disgraces, atrocities and shame.

The Parent Alienation Syndrome handbook, needs to be renamed,"The batterers handbook".  As Dean Tong renamed it, "Abuse Excuse" it has become clear that there are many excuses and blame for victims, but no tolerance for the victims escaping, no tolerance for investigating it and even support groups where they can all pat each other on the back and say, "She deserved it".

There are laws where the batterer can stop a victim from taking their child to the doctor and investigating child abuse. There are laws that stop victims escaping violence with their children who are most vulnerable to it.  There are laws that punish victims for not providing enough evidence, the right evidence or in most cases:

The evidence that clearly shows what is occurring but breaches the privacy of the perpetrator.

This is beyond injustice - Its madness.

Did you know that every time you raise child abuse or domestic violence, the court orders a "mental health check" by their own psychologist?

Did you know that even if there is evidence, the judge can choose to ignore it and if you speak out against it they can throw you in jail?

In the past, the perpetrator was clearly the person who inflicted the violence, today this includes the Family Courts, The Criminal Courts.  They are all joining in on their mother and child beating festival and few are taking action to stop this.  On the same token, I acknowledge that there are a few women that are abusive, they are often the women who stand behind these groups and Parent Alienation Syndrome.    Anyone who supports abusers is an abuser themselves, an accomplice in the great systematic crime against women and children.