Where did Motherhood go?

"Where there is a mother in the home, matters go well."
-- Amos Bronson Alcott

"What do girls do who haven't any mothers to help them through their troubles?"

-- Louisa May Alcott

"The sweetest sounds to mortals given
Are heard in Mother, Home, and Heaven."

--William Goldsmith Brown

"A father may turn his back on his child, brothers and sisters may become inveterate enemies, husbands may desert their wives, wives their husbands.  But a mother's love endures through all." 

--Washington Irving

In Jeopardy

What is one of the most outrageous stunts from mens movements, shared parenting advocates(aka fathers advocates) and children's rights(aka fathers rights) is the complete disregard for the mother who gave life to the child.  The excuses made by governments when they injected millions of dollars into funding fathers organizations was the indigenous youth male suicide statistics that were representing christian white middle-aged men.  Anyone can interpret a faith for a positive or negative intention.  In this case, its an extreme abuse against life itself.  To produce propaganda that fathers are the better, "mother" to their children is really stating, "You make them I'll take them".   Australia has introduced an old concept of joint custody called, "Shared Parenting".  United States has had joint custody since 1936 and  now have a very large population of non custodial mothers.  Non custodial mothers as opposed to Non custodial dads is a greater tragedy.  Not only did she give birth to the child and raise them for so many years - she has also juggled a career to feed them as well.  Not many people are privy to see the process of how he will achieve destroying the bond between mother and child.  Few have seen the tears, anguish and betrayal on the child's face when they learn that the father has acquired full custody.  There are some who are unfortunately attracted to the field with no psychological screening and achieve a sense of joy from watching this type of destruction take place.  Erich Fromm Describes them as:

"Necrophilous -- the lovers of death. They have the passionate attraction to all that is dead, decayed, putrid, sickly; it is the passion to transform that which is alive into something unalive; to destroy for the sake of destruction; the exclusive interest in all that is purely mechanical. It is the passion "to tear apart living structures."

"If you think back to high school, you may remember a few misfits: They were real horror movie aficionados. They may have made models of torture devices and guillotines. They loved to play war games. They liked to blow things up with their chemistry sets. They got a kick out of torturing small animals. They treasured their guns. They were really into mechanical devices. The more sophisticated the technology, the happier they were."

Exploited

"The worst form of inequality is to try to make unequal things equal."

--Aristotle Utilizing the same campaigns from the sixties on equality and peace, shared parenting advocates attempted to demonstrate that sole mothers were an abomination, a disease against men as destructive as a war torn country.  They won the hearts of many who were immersed with patria - christ ideologies.  Some would highlight the same sentiments that often entrenched women into severely violent homes and others would try to equalize a biological factor that in many respects cannot be truly equal.  Enriched with the intentions of diminishing motherhood to merely a tool and a subservient member of society, they used the superficial mirage of "who gets the child" as a sense of injustice given that mothers in the past remained the caregivers post separation.  Without reading any further, many were quick to judge this as a ligament concern, but failed to realize the full meaning of equality in all its depths and transactions.   Equalizing motherhood and fatherhood is beyond the ideals of shared parenting as the father needs to have the same amount of respect for the mother and of motherhood.  The family Courts base the roles of mothers equivalent to that of nineteenth century commentary on family values where it is the mothers sole responsibility to encourage a relationship between the father and the child regardless of the fathers efforts or in-efforts, well or ill treatment toward them.  Growth in Shared parenting not only has contributed towards the worlds economic breakdown - it has also fluctuated murder-suicide statistics and increased violence against women and children.  In some ways, shared parenting has become a new marriage contract without the love.  Despite the recent highlights in Australian news, relocation is like a life or death surgery with a fifty percent chance of making it through.  Recent trends show that mostly mothers are represented as abducting the children they bore ran with the children because of domestic violence.  The media in Australia is on a tight rope and most of the articles that are allowed support fathers rights advocates ideologies and band aid solutions to our challenges from the family courts.  The Family Violence Best Practice Principles is a poor attempt to appear as if they are actually protecting women and children from intolerable situations.  One look at the recent judgements reveal otherwise as do the promises of encompassing the human rights article of freedom to roam.   Alienation is the latest excuse from the courts as to why they grant custody reversals to fathers.  With Fathers rights advocates publicly degrading and humiliating single mothers as abomination and its echoes within the community.  Children are alienated by a more sinister form: Community Alienation.  Its effect is beyond the influences of a mother as the mob gathers to rip them away from her with the wide range of media available to them.  Any attempt of showing love or strengthening bonds is perverted into the junk science realm, "Parental Alienation" which Refers to, "Parental Alienation Syndrome" by Dr Richard Gardner.    In all its glory, the media refers to the recent joint custody laws in Australia as a "new social experiment".  This experiment is neither new nor is it social in any means.  Prior to women's rights, children and property became the fathers property upon marriage dissolution. It is a major attempt by fundamentalists to repeat patriarchy starting with, "shared" but really meaning, "mothers to lay down for the fathers".   Her Voice Despite the absence in activism on behalf of mothers in the introduction of laws that severely exploit and diminish her rights as a carer and bearer of the child, in the last year grass roots networks of mothers and their children have emerged to speak regardless of the censorship laws in their countries.  Each inspiring the other.  Her strength and resilience is beyond organizations that are exploiting her.  She gave birth after all and the strength it takes to carry and bear has been ignored.  Thus what she has learned from it has also been overlooked too.